Just Ask Sooz

Dear Sooz:

I read your column all the time and I was hoping you could answer a question for me. You see, my wife and I have a terrific sex life, but, she has to be dead drunk in order to achieve orgasm.

I love my wife, we’ve been married 15 years, but I would like to have sober sex with her. The problem has been every time we have tried it sober, she never comes to orgasm. Give her a bottle and a half or two of wine however, and she becomes a sexual goddess. The funny part is, she usually doesn’t get drunk anyother time.

I guess I am glad that she “wants” to have sex and orgasm with me enough to get drunk, I just wish there was something I could say or do to help her overcome her inhibitions towards sex while sober.

I understand you are an alcoholic who also enjoys having sex while drunk. What’s the thought process behind this? Plese help me if you can.

Concerned Husband


Dear Concerned Husband:

To pin point this is difficult as there are a number of reasons for this. One, it MIGHT depend on how she grew up and her parents attitudes about sex, or, she may feel uncomfortable about sex in general where as the alcohol takes those inhibitions away.

She might just have a low libido, many women do. Sometime testosterone drug therapy helps these women. What I would suggest is to have her see her Dr. if possible and see what he or she says about this.

The Dr. may reccomend a specialist who may be able to help and hopefully you can return to a “normal” sex life. I must tell you though, for ME, I still like to be drunk when engaging in sex.

I sincerely hope that she goes to the Dr. and explains her perticulars. Good luck with this.


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Comments (7)

  1. juls

    Amen Sooz! As usual you nailed it girl
    I also like to be drunkish. For me it’s hard to put work stress, kid stress, bills stress, my to do list, everything I’m supposed to be doing but not doing, the calendar, the commitments, and on and on and on aside and transition into carefree sex goddess without help sometimes. She probably just likes to be able to relax enough to enjoy it. Also, I remember wanting to have wine with my husband because for me the talking was what made me want to have sex with him, he took the time out of his busy day to relax with me and that made me feel important and that was a turn on. I actually kinda resented him when he wanted to skip the wine because that part was important to me. I definitely don’t think he should take it as something about him. I love that you help others. You are truly wonderful!

    May 26, 2017
  2. dreamshadow59

    I am truly thankful for your comment. Thanks for understanding.

    May 26, 2017
    1. briton

      Come again?

      May 28, 2017
      1. dreamshadow59

        Did you mean CUM again???? Hehehehehehe.

        May 28, 2017
        1. briton

          I’m reminded of the man with a glass tool who could see himself coming!

          May 28, 2017
          1. dreamshadow59


            May 28, 2017
  3. Munkyman


    May 26, 2017