Keeping Relationships Fresh

 

Many times after couples are in a relationship for a while, they get what I call comfortable. Is that a BAD thing, not necessarily, it all depends on HOW comfortable you ARE in the relationship.

For example: If you are at the stage where you can burp and fart all the time without saying excuse me, that’s ONE thing, if you are at the stage where you are no longer TALKING to each other because you have nothing to SAY, that’s another.

Try and keep your relationship fresh. What I MEAN by fresh is, like when you were first dating. I’ll bet you went out of your way to show your man/woman how great of a catch you were.

You dressed better, got all primped and proper, shaved your legs, your face, put on perfume/cologne, and tried taking her places that would impress her. Believe me, if date night NOW consists of McDonald's and a movie all the time, you are TOO comfortable.

Break that mold, take her out like you did before, even if it’s only once a week. It will give you BOTH something to look forward to. Treat him/her with respect again, open the car door for her, tell her/him how beautiful/handsome, they look, read, so you can carry on a decent conversation WITHOUT talking about work or kids, this is YOUR time, use it wisely. Many times going down memory lane will enhance the romance, use what works to get that SPARK back.

No more “Slam Bam Thank you Mam” sex and then turning over to sleep. Women like to be spooned and cuddled afterwards; it gives us a comforting feeling. The more OFTEN you practice this, chances are, the more  sex will happen.

Working on relationships is an ON-GOING thing, just remember, the more you bring it back to the beginning, the happier you BOTH will be. Now, get out there and practice…

Until Later…

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Comments (31)

  1. noahbody

    Relationships are a lot work if they are to succeed and stay fresh.

    November 12, 2015
    1. dreamshadow59

      Indeed they do…Guess I haven’t figured it OUT long enough tot even TRY what I wrote about yet….Oh well….

      November 12, 2015
      1. noahbody

        LOL!

        November 12, 2015
        1. dreamshadow59

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  2. wirelessguru1

    I like being comfortable.

    November 12, 2015
    1. dreamshadow59

      But does SHE?? Hmmmmmmm?

      November 12, 2015
      1. wirelessguru1

        Yup.

        November 12, 2015
        1. dreamshadow59

          OK, my lips are sealed then for you….Good luck…

          November 12, 2015
          1. wirelessguru1

            No luck needed here.

            November 12, 2015
            1. dreamshadow59

              Good!!!

              November 12, 2015
            2. wirelessguru1

              Well, if you opened those lips of yours for Me then she will definitely not be comfortable anymore! LOL!!!

              November 12, 2015
            3. dreamshadow59

              Well…We wouldn’t want THAT now would we You sexy thang!!!!!

              November 12, 2015
            4. wirelessguru1

              No, I want her to remain comfortable.

              November 12, 2015
            5. dreamshadow59

              November 12, 2015
  3. rebecca2013

    when two lives are entwined… it’s magic… after years now… and I would say Ziyi and I are pretty durn fresh! (showers help too!! ) hehehe

    November 13, 2015
    1. dreamshadow59

      Excellent!!!! I’m happy for you two……

      November 13, 2015
      1. rebecca2013

        well…. it has been an odd adventure….. so far….. imagine… TWO Shrinks…. together…. ¡Ay ay ay yi yi yi!!

        November 13, 2015
        1. dreamshadow59

          Hehehehehehe…You gals need a CRAZY to complete your team…

          November 13, 2015
          1. rebecca2013

            I say sí…. Ziyi said 是 Ok it’s a done deal Chica….

            November 14, 2015
        2. dreamshadow59

          LOVE it!!! I’m IN!!!

          November 14, 2015
          1. rebecca2013

            hehehe the baddest triangle on the planet Chica…. woo woo!!

            November 14, 2015
            1. dreamshadow59

              Like McDonalds…“I’m Lovin’ It” !!!!!!!

              November 14, 2015
            2. rebecca2013

              you can tell all your friends you will be busy now…. on the weekends…. you will be all tied up…. hahahahahahahaha

              November 15, 2015
  4. cjb321

    I am learning. It’s fun!

    November 13, 2015
    1. dreamshadow59

      Keep on having fun CJ!!!!

      November 13, 2015
      1. cjb321

        It’s a good start. Over 6 months now!

        November 13, 2015
        1. dreamshadow59

          YEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

          November 13, 2015
          1. cjb321

            With the same guy!

            November 13, 2015
            1. dreamshadow59

              YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  5. tulakrystal

    Excellent advice! Getting too comfortable is a trap in relationships that anyone in a relationship should always try their best to avoid falling into.

    November 14, 2015
    1. dreamshadow59

      Well said…

      November 14, 2015